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December 26, 2016
 

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Dating differences: Brazil X United States

My conversations with Camila have been very interesting. I like to talk mainly about cultural differences. I could talk about several of them, but I imagine that, on a dating site, you are interested in cultural differences in dating. So let's go:

Dating habits

It is increasingly common for couples to share their bills when they go out. In Brazil, on the other hand, the man usually pays for the girlfriend and the couple don’t tend to go on a romantic date in groups. They don’t tend to see this as fun. On the other hand, group dates in the US are not uncommon, especially in the early stages of dating. Also, Brazilians tend to date for longer than American couples, reaching years of dating before deciding whether to marry or not.

Calling for a date

In the United States, men and women ask each other on dates. In Brazil, on the contrary, women don’t tend to invite men (although this is beginning to change, from what I knew). If a woman has an interest in a man, she lets the interest be known in some way and wait for the man to invite her to a date.

Calling the relatives brother-in-law / sister-in-law / father-in-law / mother-in-law

This one is really weird, but she said is not everyone that does that. In the United States people only use these terms after they get married. While they're dating, NEVER. In Brazil, people are not even dating and already calling relatives of their beloveds like that.

The interpersonal contact

I already talked a little about this in my previous post. Camila said that in Brazil any situation is a reason to chat. It can be in the subway line on, or at the cash desk at the supermarket - there is always someone to talk about subjects ranging from meteorology to soccer. The person can already arrive slapping you on the back, dividing packets of snacks and still saying good-bye with a kiss on the cheek. Consequently, virtually every moment is an opportunity to meet someone new and to laugh.
Here in the United States the situation is quite different. People cherish a lot their space and individuality. In the supermarket line, don’t even dare to look at the person in front of you, or this will be taken as "weird". The usual Brazilian hugs and kisses are nonexistent here, even among friends. Depending on the environment, you need a pre-set set of questions to start a conversation: where are you from, what are you studying and what is your class? If, on the one hand, the American formality can be useful to avoid inconvenient people, on the other, I like this Brazilian "heat."

But let's not forget the similarities

Despite all these cultural differences that influence dating habits, human beings tend to pursue the same kinds of things in the people they date. And the social networking sites help a lot. They help us find people who like the same things as us. So that’s why I’m loving all that experience.