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Are Brazilian women really so special?

There is a tendency of appreciation of Brazilian women abroad, due to Carnival and samba. This causes many characteristics of Brazilian women to be overestimated and others undervalued. I decided to list a few.
But I must say something first. As with all generalization, exceptions are left out, whether by Brazilians or foreigners, but the goal is to speak of the average.
I'll explain first why I decided to write about it. This month I met a woman online. She was not Brazilian, and although I use dating sites mainly to meet Brazilian women, I decided to take a chance.
My summary of the date is that it did not work. Obviously, it was not because she was a foreigner (only), but this date made me think of the difference between Brazilians and foreigners.
When people discover that I am a descendant of Brazilian, I often hear the same comment: "Brazil, where the most beautiful women are"!
Despite being a big fan of Brazilians (as you already know), I find this a terrible injustice with the European and American women. Also, what a superficial and empty comment! Even if it was true. And honestly, I think this is a very subjective matter. After all, what is "beautiful" for one may not be for another, and vice versa.

Brazil of all colors and beauties

Brazil has many beautiful women, yes. And there are also many ugly women. And old, and fat, and in every way. Like anywhere else on the planet.
Brazil has, first of all, MANY women! Of all physical types, colors, ways and origins. And perhaps that is its greatest merit!
Light brown, dark, with straight hair, curly or blond, with blue or green eyes, ginger, with white skin, tall, tender, delicate, with an Indian type, European appearance, black, mulatto, Latin or oriental. The list is endless and there is something for everyone. It's just a matter of going to the state or region of your preference: 
  • South = European types due to German and Italian immigration;
  • North = indigenous types, caboclas etc;
  • Northeast and Southeast = brunette of all types;
  • São Paulo = descendants of Italians and Japanese;
  • Bahia = huge black or mulatto population;
  • Rio de Janeiro = everything mixed.
And yes, ALL of them are Brazilian.
So in the aspect of diversity, Brazil is certainly an interesting place. No man there can ever complain, saying, "Well, here, with the exception of foreigners, they all have the same face”.
As for the famous "beauty" of the Brazilian woman, I think there is a great exaggeration in all this and above all a great "naivety" of people (both foreign men and women, for I hear this comment from both) who really believe in this.
A world of care:
The truth is that Brazilian women take great care of themselves! Much more than any American or European.
Apart from those who really can’t (or don’t want to), the vast majority of women in Brazil (even the lower middle class) invest a HUGE part of their time, energy and money in improving their appearance.
Any old or young lady attends beauty salons at least once a week (Brazil does manicure and pedicure more often than taking a bath in France!).
In fact, Brazilians are FANATIC by nails. No wonder there are salons in almost every corner and names of the most bizarre for nail polish colors. In addition, the service is much cheaper and has more quality than abroad.
Hair and skin care is also a common and frequent thing among Brazilian women (and not only in special occasions such as weddings, baptisms, New Year's Eve, etc.); Dry the hair so that it is smooth and silky, at least once a week, is a very normal thing!
But I must emphasize that the Brazilian woman does not get all dressed up to please a man. She does this on her own. The Brazilian is vain, yes, but it is something cultural. Most Brazilians do not go out without a lipstick, without an earring, and love to attend a beauty salon, have their nails done, waxing okay, and they invest in it, not to please the males on call, but to please themselves, their self-esteem and to look in the mirror and like what they see.
Of course, it's okay if you dress up for the person you love. I don’t see any harm in that. But to live for this is wrong. Having the pleasure of dressing up for the loved one is also a way of saying, "I love you!". For example, if an important visitor comes to your house, you get dressed and tidy up the house. So the loved one is less important than a visit?
About clothes, even the poorest Brazilians often wear colorful and sensual clothes (often confusing sensuality with vulgarity. Unfortunately, for many men, one thing is synonymous with the other). They adorn themselves with earrings and bracelets and rarely go out on the street without makeup. And that brings me to my next topic:

The sensual Brazilian women: What is the border between vulgarity and sensuality?

I think the answer is simple. It is the union between common sense and ethics. Sensuality is not low-cut clothing, it is liking to live and to show intensity in front of life. Within this: making a striptease between 4 walls for the beloved one is one thing. Doing this on the streets is something else.
They say that Brazilian women are very sexy. But is seduction in the image or the attitude?
The image can help or complement (poorly dressed and unhygienic woman, obviously will have more difficulties in the game of seduction), but seduction is pure attitude. When the woman shows that she likes herself, that she is powerful, that she knows how to make the floor tremble, that she has a good mood and knows how to live life with lightness, daring and creativity, she will be an extremely seductive and magnetic woman.
And that's why Brazilians have this reputation of being very sexy. Of course there are insecure Brazilian women, but most of them pass this sensuality. They love themselves!
All women are born sexy. I have met many women, and I can say that there is no woman who can not develop a sensuality that already exists. What happens is that many women have a very low esteem and do not consider themselves sexy.
So it does not take much effort to be sexy. It is not in clothing, but in attitudes. Many women work, take care of their children, their husbands and the house. Where is the sensuality in the life of such a woman? In the simple fact of living life with a lot of self-esteem, good mood and willingness to keep your relationship warm.
And that goes for men too. Our sensuality and power of attraction is in our self-esteem and effort. Funny that we do everything in our companies and for our professions. If your boss asks you to make a thousand-page report, you'll run and do it. But is it too hard to take some quality time to spend with someone you love? When we die we will not take the car, our bank account or credit card. We will take the special moments we had with the people we love. Is it hard to speak a hot phrase so that the person you love feels enthusiastic? Is it hard to leave a note at a strategic location? Is it hard to prepare a special evening? It gives more work to deal with lawyers, separation, division of assets, depression or a life of no happiness, where nothing happens and everyone just follows one day after another.

What about sex? And the fire?

We come to the part that EVERYONE wants to know (be it men or women). Yes, Brazilian women are famous for being hot and liking good sex. Before answering this, what do the studies say about it? They say that sex is good for appearance: it helps to lose weight, it creates endorphins in the body, it improves the texture of the skin, the shine of the hair – Hell, it makes our lives better!
Brazilians really are more affectionate. They love giving and receiving affection! Small gestures of affection are normal between them.
But I think behind the legend of the Brazilian woman who likes sex there is a small truth behind it. Brazilian women are, in fact, sexually freer than others. Among them, the layer of repression and shame, which everywhere covers female sexuality, may be thiner. Brazilian chauvinism did not produce castrated, fearful, prudish women. From it emerged, in the twentieth century, sexually active and independent girls. Female libido between them is strong. There is an eroticism in Brazilian feminine culture similar to men's eroticism, and perhaps this is the great virtue of this marvelous culture: while in other cultures there is an abyss between the sexual behavior of women and men, in Brazil the difference is smaller, although it’s still remarkable.
However, not everyone understands the situation, of course. Sexual freedom does not fit well with backward mentalities. The more sexist the place is, the more repressed women's sexuality, the more scandal provokes the possibility of their free behavior. Where repression and ignorance dominate, freedom offends. It is an inescapable rule.
But I imagine that in the future, when Brazil is a less poor country, and therefore a victim of less prejudice, the sexual freedom of Brazilian culture will be perceived throughout the world as part of a way to live better and to be more happy. A group of people who celebrate their own bodies and are not ashamed of their sensuality are better people. Perhaps some puritan religious or some very conservative person in some country of more authoritarian regime may disagree - but frankly, who cares about them?

The bad side of the "stories" about Brazilian women

Unfortunately the "beauty" and "sensuality" of the Brazilian woman are sold as an attraction, almost as a national patrimony, taking away the fact that we are talking about people, not waterfalls or architectural ensembles. While some may see it as pride, one more way to be "better" than the others, I find it worrisome and even dangerous that women are portrayed for the rest of the world in this way.
Foreigners who buy this image of the Brazilian woman and go to Brazil believing that they are there to serve them (including several of them are going to increase  a network of sexual exploitation that often victimizes children and adolescents in situations of social vulnerability), certainly ARE part of the problem; As much as the Brazilians, who consciously or unconsciously reinforce this chauvinism that strips women not only of their clothes, but of their humanity.
It is against this tsunami of stereotypes created about Brazilian women and that are propagated in every way, and against the aggressions resulting from these ideas, that we ALL have to fight every day. EVERYONE needs to recognize and reaffirm the existence of these wonderful women as diverse, complex, and autonomous human beings.
I think that just using the stereotype of the Brazilian woman half-naked, dancing, all sweaty, is already extremely ridiculous and, we know that in a country like Brazil, where there are several mixtures, cultures and religions, it is not possible to create a stereotype. These people have their own cultural background, which includes education, moral values, religious values, and a lot of other factors. Therefore, a person who believes in a stereotype exhaustively offered by the media, already proves how ignorant he is.
But that seems to be changing. Returning to talk about Carnival (I can’t wait to pack my bags and embark on a plane to Brazil), one of the most famous symbols of Carnival is Globeleza. Naked, dancing and with the body painted with vignettes of Globo Network: this was how Globeleza was known from 1991 until last year.
From the Internet, I discovered, to my pleasant surprise and happiness, that in the commercial on Globo broadcast on January 8th of this year, the one that was baptized as the "Brazilian carnival muse" appears different: dancing, but dressed in typical Frevo and Maracatu, in addition to flag-bearer of samba school accompanied by a master-room.
The repercussion of the video on social networks was heated. On one side some celebrating, on the other, some criticizing. The focus, then, seems to be not only on a single woman, but on the various representations that the Brazilian Carnival has. I believe that the new representation of the character "Globeleza" is positive and goes to the encounter of valuing elements of the Brazilian culture.
I mentioned many subjects in this post. The most important thing I tried to say was: both Brazilian and foreign women should be treated as HUMAN BEINGS. In short, that's it.